Andhera

Andhera,
Ghana ghoop Andhera
charo or chaya hua sa,
Sabhi dekh rahe hain,
Magar chup hain.

Koi nahi jalata,
Koi kyun nahi jalata,
ek deepak,
ek mashaal,
jo bhaga de is andhere ko.

sayad machi to hai sabhi ke paas
maar kharch nahi karna chahta
koi
ek bhi tilli.

PMP Certification

PMP certification (cleared in 2 weeks)

It was a tough decision to take PMP exam within 2 weeks of completion of my 4.5 days class (36 hours PDU in PMI terms) when everyone suggested to study at-least for 3 month to crack the exam.

I decided not to delay because of few personal and professional constraints. It is also good to take exam sooner after completion of classes so that PDUs will be fresh in mind. Anyway there is not much risk since 3 attempts is allowed within 1 year.

Few tips and tricks for clearing PMP exam:

· Read the PMBOK at least 3-4 times to have a clear understanding and relationship between different phases of project. Some terms and topics are not covered in this book which can be seen in exam.

· Rita Mulcahy is really a nice book. It explains the terms and topics with real life project scenarios. Solving all the questionnaires at the end of each chapter is a "must" to do thing. Make notes for all abbreviations and terms used in the PMBOK. Make sure that you remember it by heart.

· Practice all formulas. They are not complicated but clear understanding is required since exam questions will be twisted relating with a real life scenario. Practice as many questions as possible related to mathematical calculations. Rita book also got nice collection of such questions with explanation.

· Practise atleast 2 full set of 200 questions(not more than 4). Try to solve in 4 hours as per PMP exam time. 240minutes is provided to clear 200 questions i.e. almost 1.2 minutes per question. Try to understand question in one read.

· One PMP exam simulation question paper is available at www.pmstudy.com/PMP-Exam-Resources/freeSimulatedTest.asp. You must solve it once to evaluate your preparation 2-3 days before your target exam date. Your should be able to finish the question paper to review "marked" questions. Can also refer this to practice more http://www.oliverlehmann.com/pmp-self-test/75-free-questions.htm. More emphasis should be given on solving questions than studying. Questions will align your knowledge with real scenarios.

· The main trick during exam is not to select the correct answer first, but to reject the 2 most unlikely answer. This will let you focus on only two answers and your probability of choosing correct answer will increase to 50% from 25%. You can easily reject 2 answers straight away in 75% of questions.

Few points about exam:

> Nothing will be allowed inside exam, even pen. Your pockets will be emptied. They will provide pencil and scratch sheets.

> Its an online exam and your result will be available as soon as you press "end exam". The result will appear as PASS or FAIL on your screen and grading will be given for each chapter. marks will not be disclosed.

> They will provide you with the printed copy of result once you are coming out of exam.

> You must utilize every bit of 4 hours so plan your food and drink intake such that you don't need to take any break.
> Generally as per various websites, 106+ answers should be correct out of 175 questions. rest 25 questions will not be considered for marking although these questions will not be disclosed.

Thanks to QT&T, Singapore and my class room trainer Mr. Chari for the guidance and encouragement.

What else? Just do it. Best of Luck.

Contact me for any material.

Illusions of life

It was a lazy start of weekend. Sleeping till late already ate half of my day. I pulled myself out of room to execute my weekend plan although delayed by few hours.

It was almost noon by the time I reached swimming pool complex. After getting into swimming attire I looked around for a chair to keep my belongings when I found empty chair beside one girl. A wheel chair near swimming pool? I was astonished but without giving any second thought, I jumped in the swimming pool. I gave one quick look in the pool after reaching other end. Since it was noon not many people were in the pool. There were three Amerikano girls with 6+ft height and with proper swimming costume. Two Chinese looking girls were swimming uninterrupted from one end to another. There was one guy with nice build and was holding the side wall of the swimming pool at deeper end and perhaps was much in relaxing mood. He was mostly stretching his body inside water keeping himself constant in a restricted area. His face gave me a shock when I found that he was actually in his 50’s while his body was not ready to accept his ageing.

There was one more guy seemed to be giving a training tips to one girl. Few lifebuoys were tied to her body. The guy was supporting her from front holding both of her hands and making her swim from one end to another. Couple of times my eyes met her eyes but there was no change in expression. I also noticed that she is not at all putting any effort in swimming.

With all these going around, I was keeping my focus on swimming. Sometimes I would hold the sidewall to take short break and same time would have a look on illusions of god in proper costume. After a few laps in swimming pool I decided to come out of water.

The moment I came out I saw the lady sitting with a wheel chair pulling the chair near the pool. It was shocking for me. So the person is in the swimming pool? I gave a look at pool again but I could not guess the owner of the wheel chair. No one looked physically challenged there. Story of the guy who had no limbs but was a good swimmer flashed in front of my eyes.

Generally I don't pause to see these happening but my curiosity held me and I took my belongings, pulled out my towel and started drying my body slowly. My eyes were all set on wheel chair. Once I thought it may be the old man who was stretching holding the sidewalls, but when I scanned the pool, I could not find him. In no time, I saw the man who was training the girl, coming near the end of the pool where wheel chair was waiting. So who among these two? The man stopped near the edge and took off all lifebuoys from the girl’s body. The girl’s body slowly went inside water while he was keeping her head uplifted in water. Trainer and the girl standing outside pulled her out of water and lied her down on chair. Her body parts were motionless. I was frozen for a moment.

Kudos to girl's friends and relatives, whoever they are, for not only giving her comforts of life but also going extra mile to make her life meaningful. The wheel chair slowly rolled out of perspective and I also made a move.

Love? Arranged? Marriage?

Mehandi: A custom in Indian Marriage

Marriages are nothing but a social stamp for a couple to live together a continue their family life. The partner is either chosen by you or by your parents. When you are choosing yourself, you name it as "Love Marriage" and when your parents are choosing for you it is named as "arranged Marriage".

It is an old saying that "Marriages are decided in heaven".
If marriage is decided in heaven why we always fall in this debate. Anyway since this debate is on lets dig till the root.
Life is a journey which ends with perishing to the five elements. Marriage is a part of a journey where you choose a partner and decide to stay with her or him throughout life understanding the complexities and the differences created by god.
It doesn't matter if you are going for an arranged marriage or love marriage, post marriage will always be a time when you will find lot of unexplored areas where you may need lot of sacrifice and adjustment. That's why the proverb is famous in India "Shaadi ka laddoo Jo khaye wo bhi pachtaye aur jo na khaye wo bhi pachtaye" (The person who gets married also repents and who doesn't get married also repents).

Love and Love Marriage
First of all, we will try to understand what love is?
"Love" A simple, prominent word tickles the sensitive nerve inside you. "He/She loves me?" "No one loves me". "I am in love". " He/She is everything to me". These common proverbs always hit the eardrum when you are listening to narration of some close one.

I am always amused by these words. Immediately next question pops up in my mind that "how you are so sure that this is love?". This may be because the someone successfully removed the word loneliness from your dictionary or this may be just an attraction to opposite sex. Or this may be because you don't want someone to go off your life when you had only one to share your feelings.
These questions generally pops up whenever someone tells me his/her love story. How can you be sure that this is love??. The only answer I get for this question is " you will understand only when you will fall in love". Means there is no perfect way to realize if you are in love.
The most amazing type of love is "love at first sight". Really? Love at first sight? So what exactly you saw in him or her at first glance that let you fall in love? Are you sure that this is not lust but love?

There are different views of people towards love. In western culture, falling in love means "making Love".( this is how they rename physical intimacy"). Surprisingly, they fall in love and break quite often. I am not sure if love exists without physical interaction.Can love exists without any selfishness?
I respect views of people on "love". Once one of my close friend (girl) told that her boyfriend went abroad for higher studies. Now she got another boyfriend to get away with loneliness feeling. I asked casually.
" what will be your step if your old boyfriend comes back".
She replied "I will choose one who will be the best for me".
"so whom you love?"
"Both," she replied.
I was amused by her answer. Is she happy of having two options to choose from or really her decision is based on love?
I have heard people commenting "he/she will be the best husband/wife for me". The best ? So it is not love that is driving you for marriage? This is your choice where you are choosing your life partner instead of your parents. It means your love marriage is not marriage out of love but an "arranged marriage" arranged by you.

Let's consider a situation where couple care for each other, see happiness in each other's smile and go to any extent to give the better half a better life. They found that they can not live without each other and finally decided to get bonded forever. They lived happily thereafter. A successful love story.

For outer world Indian culture is considered as orthodox culture where society and parents in general don't accept their kids finding their own life partner. This may be because either they are completely against love or they don't want their children to take immature decision and suffer throughout life. Religion, Caste, region language and other monsters also roam freely in India eating Love mercilessly wherever they find it.

The real-life story starts immediately after marriage rituals are over. Immediately couple starts realizing that living together needs lots of compromises. Going together to ice cream parlour to have icecream was always pleasant then facing the real life challenges post marriages and still keep the smile on. Both joined together with expectations, love and hoping everything will be pleasant. When these things turn out into compromise, it becomes tough for them to accept. There are much more divorce cases in Love marriage then arranged marriage. Why divorce appeared when there was love? What went wrong? It means there was no love at any point of time but just some pleasant moment and opposite sex attraction?
Before you jump to a conclusion, let's have a look at other part as well.

Arranged Marriage

What??? How can I live throughout my life with a total stranger? And most important how can I make sure that our thinking style and other such things match which will decide our happiness in the future.
"Dad?? How can I live with a guy throughout my life whom I even don't know? Why are you judging him on only monetary basis? Money is not everything in life\"
"Who want housewife?" I want a girl who can be with me and understand me throughout my life." Ready to compromise for family happiness and keep a family at first priority". Whose likes matches with mine and same time dislikes.

Can these demands be fulfilled when parents search better half for their children? I think no. We can know the materialistic and visible thing in the guy or gal but can not know their thinking style or their way of taking life.

In India, "birth horoscope" is matched to make sure that both have similar qualities. After marriage, this analysis may not turn as expected. Still, if we look at the statistics, the satisfaction graph is more positive and hence the divorce cases in arranged marriage is comparatively less. Why is it so? When two total strangers can live life together more comfortably then love birds?

As I feel, arranged marriage gives a couple a created platform to start their life where family values, culture, custom, monetary status are matched.
They try to understand each other's likes and dislikes post marriage since both are new for each other. In this process, they get close to each other. Pleasant attitude of both toward each other is a boon. Unpleasant behavior is not taken so seriously since they find many new things about each other. Not that all is well in an arranged marriage.
In arranged marriage, the entire responsibility of marital failure does not fall on one’s shoulder while in love marriage, failure is attributed to the two persons married alone by their own choice. Less expectation and more compromise may be the key of arranged marriage success. This helps them to get experienced ideas to resolve. In this orthodox country, the family stability and bonding is more. When couple falls in relation, it should be taken as a relation forever similar to any other relation with parents and siblings.

After all there is nothing right or wrong in life. Whatever comes in life take it whole heartily and live life with full energy and happiness.

This article is my point of view towards the marriage system and not to hurt anyone's idea or sentiments. YOu are most welcome to present your idea and comment on this blog. The article is written for www.facebook.com/LoveYaArrange(Indiblogger Love Vs Arranged Marriage contest ) as well.

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